Hate breeds hate

I am saddened to see so much hate on my newsfeed this morning. 

So many close minded opinions, sharing of religious statements taken out of context and articles plucked from thin air to prove your way is right. 

I love a healthy debate. One in which each person in turn airs their views, open to be swayed by others in a way to understand eachother and consolidate what you believe.

I agree we have to challenge those that are doing wrong in our eyes, not to condemn but to understand why they think differently from us.

Next time you see hurtful comments or articles shared, instead of tutting and ignoring it, or sending hurtful comments straight back why don’t you ask a challenging open question?

E.g.

  • I am intrigued by your point of view. I would like to understand how you came to think this way?
  • I understand your anger, I am saddened by what is happening too. What do you think you or I can do to help on a day to day basis?
  • I am trying really hard to understand where you are coming from. Could you please send me useful links so I can research this for myself?

Can you hear the difference? It is obvious you are from another opinion, but you are open to be swayed or challenged. 

Maybe this way you will either:

  1. Receive a very well thought out answer that may help you understand where they are coming from.
  2. Have the opportunity to share your beliefs also in an open and relaxed discussion
  3. Or more hateful statements will be returned and at this point you can choose to leave the conversation or ask another kind and considered open question.

I am going to be selective on what I write and when. Maybe private messages rather than comment sections will be more amicable?

I have no idea if it’s going to work, but I can’t swipe passed anymore hate without doing something about it.

I would appreciate your support.

Please share your kind and open opinions on what I have said in the comments section below.

Remember love online, offline, always.

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My Virtually Perfect Life

So… I lost my phone.
Don’t worry I know where it is, well I didn’t for a while, but I do now.

I left it in Italy, left safe in a safe.
So safe in fact that I even forgot about it and drove home without it.

I’m quite proud I lost it.

Well not proud, let me explain…

You see I was having so much fun in my real life that I completely forgot about keeping up my perfect virtual social media life.

We all do it. Make our life look better on social media than it really is.

If my Instagram was reality I’d spend my days faffing with petals and drinking cups of tea. Do you want to hear something funny- I don’t even drink tea and my knowledge of plants ranges from ‘daisy’ to ‘rose’ and not much further.

But in Italy, it didn’t matter. I didn’t take my camera out of my bag to record memories I just made memories. I didn’t blog about my deep inner most feelings about how nervous I was to see in the new year, I just saw it in. I didn’t upload my edit of our family Christmas to YouTube and spend the next 30 minutes counting views, most of which are my own, I just enjoyed creating it.

I did miss it, but not as desperately as I thought I would.

I never usually stick to resolutions, my rebellious streak always makes me want to break whatever rule I’ve fathomed up for the year.

But a resolution in which I strive to have a life that feels better in person than it looks on social media, now that sounds exciting to me.

It’s a challenge.

Yes my social media will be regularly updated with beautiful images, video and writing- however I will aim to ensure that my real life is always better, fuller, more exciting.

I want to live moments not just capture them
Suck them up, ooze them in, not let them pass by through the barrier of a phone or a camera lens.

You’ll have to remind me, I’m relying on you lot.

Oh and I still don’t have my phone back so sorry about that if you need to reach me, or maybe I’m not sorry?

If you do need me I’ll be in the Braintree area living my life, one real life moment at a time.